I really hate it when I go as long as a month and don’t post. Going that long makes me feel like we’ve not been progressing. The truth is that life has been busy (you can meet our newest family member, Keller, and see his own journey here) but we are slowly moving along. Since we last talked, Becky and I have gotten our FBI clearance. When we got our fingerprints taken, the volunteer was amazingly nice and didn’t charge us for either set. The next step for the FBI clearance (and our birth and marriage certificates) is apostilling, which I had never heard of until getting involved in the mountains of paperwork that is adoption. When dealing with adoptions across international borders often you need a step up from notarization. This involves taking the notarized document and mailing it off to a Secretary of State’s (either state or federal level depending on the document) office for a big goal seal that says, “Yes, this official document is official.” I’m just trusting that it needs to be done for a good reason and, at the worst, it helps put food on someone’s table.
While we, obviously, won’t be using Alabama for our adoption. Here’s an example of an apostille.
There’s also online adoption parenting classes that are underway. So far, I have the attachment and the behavioral disorders/mental illness class under the belt. Becky and I were talking and think the goal for the class is to scare you with the worst possible outcome and then try to make you feel like it is not so bad. For example, they tell you about an orphanage in Romania that was in a horrible state and whose children had some of the most extreme cases of attachment disorders and then they let you know that except for a few individuals that most of the kids ended up all right. The cases of behavioral and mental illness throw around possible diagnoses but then talk you down off the edge by saying that some of the issues are just the product of institutionalization and will go away after PK has lived with us for a few months, or that PK could be perfectly fine. Like we said before, just like having a kid the old-fashioned way, becoming a parent is a bit of a grab bag and you never know quite what you’re going to get. I am looking forward to the classes on cultural identity, the class on issues that are particular to Poland and a few of the others. I’m a geek and I’ve always gotten excited about classes. Some things never change.
Monday, we have a Skype talk with the folks at our agency! I can’t tell you how amazing that they’ve been. They’re so encouraging, patient and willing to answer any question we have. Between the staff and the other adoptive parents that we’ve gotten into contact with, I really feel like we’re part of a bigger family. I know the support will be very important when we enter the rounds of waiting once we get our paperwork done…that’s still a ways away, though.
In a few days, Becky and I will be starting a 10-day fundraiser. It’s through another company who has blown us away with both great service and love. They’re Chromebuffalo and they sell artist-designed t-shirts in 10-day runs for adoptive families. We get $11 for each shirt sold. If you’d like to help us get another step closer to PK and get an awesome shirt out of it, head over to our webpage starting on Sunday (I’ll post another announcement on Facebook Sunday, when the site goes live).
Becky and I just want to take the time to thank all of you for your prayers, encouraging words and financial gifts. We have been blown away by the support and truly feel loved. This would not be possible without you all.
Well, it’s back to paperwork for me. Hopefully it won’t be another month before I write again!